My man Gareth and I have been talking about buying a house and settling down together and working on a life that a committed couple does. But Ireland has still not passed promised legislation to allow gay couples to marry. Gareth has been torn between the choice of sticking it out in Ireland and hope the legislation is passed in 2009 or we move to a country that allows gay marriage?
We went for a nice walk in the country on Monday afternoon and found a nice secluded place by a creek where we sat for awhile and had a very serious talk about where we want our lives to go from here on out. I told him that I didn't need an official ceremony to declare that I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. Now don't get me wrong, I would love to have an official, public ceremony to express the love I have for him and the commitment I am making with him, but I don't need it. But for him it matters. He wants to have the same rights, the same celebration he watched his brother and friends have and I get that too.
After the talk, when we started to walk again, he actually reached over to me and took my hand in his hand. We walked for a long time hand in hand, just enjoying the day and making small talk and having a few laughs. We have never walked hand in hand before in public. Even though we both had a lot on our minds as far as our future, I know as long as we continue to walk through life hand in hand, everything will be alright.